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Lighten the Load Part 1

Lighten the Load Part 1:
Dealing with the Burdens of a Homeschool Mom

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Have you ever seen the bicycles that have more than one seat? Big families sometimes use them if younger kids need to be able to keep up with the rest of the family.

These bicycles have two, three or even four seats sometimes! All four seats can pedal to help, but often the younger ones in the family get tired before the rest, which is why they are attached to the parent.

The parent bears the burden of pedaling even when the other riders get tired. They have a lot to bear.

That burden is a normal, healthy burden. Now imagine that on that family bike ride, Mom is pulling 3 younger children on her bike. That’s a lot of riders!

Mom has the responsibility to make sure her children can keep up with Dad and her older children. While they are biking though, Mom decides to go up a hill when she could have gone around it. She also decides to move the gears on the bike up, so that the pedaling becomes difficult, and then decides to deflate her tires a little. Would Mom be able to keep up? Would she get tired?

What would you say if you were a part of that family and saw that happening? You would probably say, “What are you doing Mom!? You are making it much harder on yourself than you really need to!”

This is an illustration of how some Homeschool Moms operate while homeschooling. They already have the huge responsibility of making sure that their household runs well and that their children flourish in their education. But those are not the only burdens that Moms tend to bear. There are other things that are added to their plate.

These others burdens that Homeschool Moms experience include:

 

Perfectionism – Requiring personal perfection when it comes to homeschooling, parenting, or homemaking.

Weariness – Moms have so much to do, and a myriad of demands placed upon them, which means that being exhausted will weigh them down.

Personal Expectations – This goes along with perfectionism. Moms place so many expectations upon themselves that sometimes they can be unreasonable. Moms bear the burden of their own expectations, which so often are not met.

Financial Stress – This is one burden that so many deal with. Money is a large piece of what we stress about. We are often burdened with worries of money.

 

This is just a short list of what could be weighing you down. If you let some of these things begin to “pile” up on you, then you will burn out very quickly.

There are some things that we need to worry about. There are some things that we need to be responsible for which can lead to worry. But there are also things that we don’t need to burden ourselves with, but we do anyway!

Next time we will talk about putting everything in its proper place. This will allow you to put aside stress and worry that is wearing you down and affecting your ability to be a Homeschool Mom.

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Translating Pinterest to Real Life: Part 2

Translating Pinterest to Real Life: Part 2Pinterest Perfection

Last time we talked about the emotional challenges of Pinterest. We are tempted to expect every project, decoration, DIY, recipe and anything else we find to turn out as perfect as “Pinterest Perfect”

What this can lead to is frustration, or even feelings of inadequacy.

But maybe you do not feel this at all! Maybe you know exactly how, the expectations we put on ourselves because of Pinterest, are not fair. But if you do struggle with this then keep reading!

Today we are going to talk about how to properly think about Pinterest and how to effectively use it. This is not an encyclopedic article on every possible way to use Pinterest, but we will try to give some good advice and let you take it from there!

1. Think of Pinterest as a piece of the puzzle and not the whole puzzle. Pinterest uses pictures to help you find ideas. We are visual creatures when it comes to the internet. Anything that is visually striking catches our eye.

The temptation then, is that when we see an amazing project, all we see is how perfect it is. We see it in its isolated environment on Pinterest. We only see it in all its glory!

Which means, when you go to setup that amazing organizational chart in your kitchen, it doesn’t quite look as perfect as what Pinterest seems to show. The reason is, because your emotions are impacted by so many things in your life! The cleanliness of your house, the mood you are in, the way your children are acting are all part of how you feel about something. If you feel a little overwhelmed, the organizational chart won’t be as impressive.

Your Pinterest project is just one piece of a very big puzzle. Pinterest ONLY shows the perfect project that solves just one problem. Pinterest ONLY shows one amazing picture of everything working in harmony for one moment. Long enough to get a great picture! Your life is so much more than one picture, and in real life things aren’t Pinterest Perfect.

Understand that one Pinterest project will not make you feel good about everything else going on in your life.

2. Look at Pinterest for SPECIFIC NEEDS. Isn’t that what most of us do? Yes, but what tends to happen is that we look at all that Pinterest has to offer and we start to wish all of our lives should look like Pinterest.

We get caught up in the world of Pinterest and compare our world to it. This can lead to a lot of frustration!

Instead, think about Pinterest in a very specific sense. Persevere mentally! Only look for specific needs and more importantly, only compare what you have done with that specific need. Pinterest is a great tool but you should never compare your whole life to Pinterest. Take on small piece and see if anyone else has had an idea and pinned it for that very specific need.

3. Spend enough time on Pinterest to enjoy it, but not enough to be controlled by it. This principle could be used for any social media channel. We are too often controlled by something and not often enough in control. Make sure you understand Pinterest and the very specific role it fills. It is not a standard whereby you measure yourself against the vastness of the internet, but a tool to help you solve specific problems.

 

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Translating Pinterest to Real Life: Part 1

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If you have a Pinterest account you are like millions of other people. You may use it to keep track of photos. You could be one of those people that it turns out to be your big pile of internet ideas and “junk.”

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You may also be a DIY fanatic that crawls all over Pinterest looking for that perfect project that will turn your hole-in-the-wall closet into an HGTV masterpiece. You could be the person looking for that perfect word of encouragement to get you through the day. Whatever you use Pinterest for, something seems to be not quite right.  When you do something that is inspired by Pinterest, your finished product doesn’t quite seem to be all that Pinterest promised. It is not exactly perfect. Things did not go nearly as smoothly as it seemed they would or the finished product is not quite what you wanted.

What you see in front of you is not quite what you see on your tablet or computer. It may look or turn out looking exactly the way it should, but something is not quite right.

The frustration you are sensing with Pinterest is that you do not have the “Pinterest Life.” You have a real life.  You have a busy, rushed, distracted, and sometimes out-of-control life.

At the core of the problem is this: Pinterest pictures the perfect finished project without the issues of everyday life. Pinterest is an isolated picture of a perfect project, chores chart, organizational strategy or inspiring quote.

Which means, when you try to replicate that Pinterest Perfection, you come up with something not quite Pinterest Perfect because your life is not Pinterest Perfect. It just doesn’t quite meet your expectations.

This reality can be very frustrating. Your life will never be quite what it needs to be for Pinterest Perfect to be attained. This may lead to frustration, feelings of inadequacy or even helplessness. If you don’t ever feel these things then this post is not for you, but if you ever struggle with measuring yourself against what you see on Pinterest, we want to help!

Pinterest can be a really effective tool. But it is not effective if you have expectations that lead to frustrations. We want to give you the right perspective on Pinterest and using it as a tool in your life.

Find out next time!

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